Ok ladies and gentlemen it was recently brought to my attention that dating has become extremely complicated, scary, and out right crazy.
Now, not all dating experiences have to be horrible and leave you wondering, “Why do I even try?” Instead, you can enter one and exit one feeling the same high level of security, excitement, and wonder that makes love blossom.
Let’ think about this. Man and woman meet instantly there is a chemistry but this is not based on conversation rather eye to eye full body animalistic attraction. At this moments the breaks must be pushed….have we ever heard of lust…ok moving forward. When we meet lust we must know what we are facing which is attraction lacking the foundation of one’s character, taste, and habits. In order to learn a person, we must push lust out of the car and allow patience, reason, and respect into the situation. We must also remove expectations and open ourselves to the possibilities which are infinite!
Once we can do these things then we have to be honest with ourselves and the other person regarding our desires NOT EXPECTATIONS OF THEM; our likes AGAIN NOT RELATED TO THEM; and our feelings AS IT RELATES TO THEM.
Leave the past out of new interactions unless the other person is a therapist because it distracts from who you are and makes it seem as if you are stuck in moments passed. Also, be open to the new person and accept them for who they are. Then decide if in acceptance you now want a friend, possible companion, or to detach. THE CHOICE IS YOURS!
This is the great part…CHOICES…
When dating, let’s not function backwards meaning physical sharing then conversion and going out. Rather, go out, laugh, talk, share and then if that chemistry is still there…do what you do…but proceed with caution.
For men and women dating is complicated because we always look at the other person. We want everyone to meet our expectations and often disregard what the other expects inform us. We move quick to end just as quickly or fight to make it work.
Dating can be simple:
2. Get to know eachother with physical intimacy
3. Share experiences that are ocurring
4. Reference the past only when relevant, necessary, or related to situations outside of past relationships
5. Acknowledge your needs
6. Love you and be open to give compassion
7. Have fun, because no fun=no love=no relationship despite physical chemistry.
Peace, love and blesses!
Looking forward to your thoughts
Another view with Jewels from Acquilla Semevou